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The Confessions Of An Insufferable Try-Hard

Alright – so before I begin this blog there is something that you need to know about me.

I am a freaking “try hard” – like – not in the “look at her making a humble but strong effort towards self betterment” good way either.

I am a try hard, in the worst sense meaning I have all of the dislike-able traits of someone who is constantly “trying, very hard”: I am a know-it-all, workaholic, perfectionist, who despite knowing better IS concerned what others think of me.

AND – I am also super stubborn; dead-set on hitting THE STAR ( not landing amongst them ) … almost to the point where my determination to be a smashing success ( at something ) is incredibly annoying to other people.

– it was around this time last year, that these qualities about my self finally became apparent to me and,  how else should I say this?, I finally understood why almost nobody found me like-able.

However, despite knowing this about my self ( for over a year ) it has taken me up until JUST NOW – to come out of my “try-hard” closet and publicly admit this about myself without shame.

You see; for the most part  – I like who I am ( despite being occasionally insufferable ) – and I believe that if I keep on; keeping on in the direction I am heading, I will achieve my goals in spite of the fact that even then ( when I do ) I still won’t be particularly like-able.

In fact the only thing about this realization; that has made me change anything about my self is the perpendicular realization that I should really just finally OWN it.

Because, I feel, like so many of us do – I have been holding a lot of my me-ness in / withholding my “authenticity” *barf, gag* in order to deliver a more palatable version of “Brandie Peters” that people can actually stomach.

The problem with this is, I hate this, it is not fun, it isn’t working, and the type of people that it attracts into my life ( to put it plainly ) are not compatible with “me”.
By withholding my true self from the world ( and watering down my everything ) I have made myself; dull and un-shiny – and if at all possible, even MORE UN-Likeable. ( If that is even possible )

And honestly, for a good part of the last year I have been trying to concoct some sort of master plan where I get to hop out from behind a curtain; pull off this “water-down me-ness” disguise and shout SURPRISE! Fooled yah all! This is who I REALLY am – and do it in a way that doesn’t cost me anything.

But here’s the thing;

That won’t be possible.
It is NOT possible to reveal your true try-hard self to the general public and have it just randomly accepted by everyone; because ( here’s a secret ) none of us – who appear in our unfiltered version WILL ever – be fully acceptable to the general public.

Unfiltered and unmasked people are absolutely terrifying creatures.

So rather I have prepared my self for the opposite; knowing that in my case – a full unveiling of my me-ness / true self to the world will in fact cost me things like; instagram followers, email subscribers, fake Facebook friends, and the burdening weight that comes with trying to be a more palatable version of your self just so that you can hide amongst the general population.

It’ll unfortunately cost me all of these things – but hopefully also earn me the freedom to do more of the things that I want – and less of the things I hate; and move me ( and my human body vessel ) in the right direction towards whatever it is that the universe has in store for us.

Thank You.

Watch my latest Youtube Video: “I am Fake” for more insight on all this.

Have a business? Here is why you SHOULD be excited about Instagram ( 5 Reasons )

Have a business? Here is why you SHOULD be excited about Instagram ( 5 Reasons )

#1 Instagram is increasing in popularity while Facebook is declining. Although the platform is over a decade old, it is still signing up new users each day!!📸

#2 Instagram is popular cross demographics; people of all ages, sex, location, and interests use Instagram. Because it is a very niche’ interest focused platform, there is huge potential for ANYONE – to find “their people” on the platform. 👍

#3 Unlike Facebook ( a lot of people are frustrated by its closed nature ) Instagram is more open for discoverability (( granted that you have a public profile ) the algorithm also isn’t as tight; meaning that if you put in a solid amount of effort you can still enjoy organic growth.👌

#4 Instagram is multi-media and designed for storytelling! ( The term micro-blog ) comes to mind. There are so many ways you can share information and connect with people on Instagram – beyond “just pretty pictures” 🙌

#5 Instagram Ads – Instagram Ads are a business owners dream because they allow you to reach people on Instagram who are going to love your content, and convert them into leads ( if you know what you are doing ). Ps. Instagram Ads live in your Facebook Ads manager and there are tons of options for building audiences and creating ads.

So, riddle me this WHY are you not using Instagram to market your business?

Is it because you aren’t sure how or have been “trying” but not having any success?

Maybe you might like to try my Instagram Marketing Success Challenge 5 Days of Instagram Profile Makeover Tips to help you overhaul you Instagram Marketing Strategy and improve your Instagram game.

Are you into it?
Sign up here:
https://mailchi.mp/leadbuddy.biz/instagram-challenge

The Best Beginner Blogging Course!

Get A Jumpstart On Your Blog With This Awesome Blogging Course!

I have made multiple attempts at “becoming a blogger” and frankly, none of yet to be substantially successful. However, they have been awesome vessels for me to express myself, share my life, harvest new opportunities and grow as a person.
I’ve long since accepted that blogging will never be my “career” but, it will always be a small part of what I do online because I enjoy it so much.

While in the process of relaunching THIS BLOG I recently came across this recommendation for this “Becoming a Blogger” Facebook Group – and I decided to pop in and see what all the fuss was about, and immediately found myself “at home”.
Now, trust me – I have been a Facebook Group user for years now. In fact, without Facebook Groups I wouldn’t have my career OR my business… ( maybe more about that some other time. )

This group is unique because it is full of bloggers at varying experience levels all “tribing” together to learn and build passive income blogs.
It is also hosted by Cate Rosales ( a kindred spirit and savvy entrepreneurial blogger ) who puts a lot of time and energy into making the group a great place to be!

After I expressed that I was a bit “rusty” as a blogger and was diving back in, Cate kindly offered me the opportunity to review her “Becoming A Blogger” Teachable course.
I was really impressed by how much excellent and informative material Cate included in her course ( for an astonishing price of only $97 USD ) – her material is short, sweet, and too the point – with clear instructions, no jargon; precisely what I look for in an online course.

It isn’t just your usual “here’s how you get a WordPress blog” here is how you change your theme kinda stuff, Cate includes IMPORTANT >> money-making << details like:

– What is affiliate marketing
– Top affiliate networks to join ( full list ) 
– Amazon affiliate marketing
– What are sponsored posts?
– Getting your first sponsored post!
– Guest posting 101
– List of websites that pay for guest blogs!

Like this is the good stuff!
And the stuff that YOU NEED to know if you want to make money blogging full-time, part-time, or ANY TIME.
It is all the stuff I wish I had known when I was a thirteen-year-old spending 300 hours making the perfect CSS custom WordPress theme for shits and giggles.

So here’s the thing.

If you’ve stopped here… on my blog… because you want to blog yourself – and though like hey, “she seems to know a bit about blogging”… thanks…I don’t, consider me clueless…OBVIOUSLY! *wink*
However, I do have one solid recommendation for you – try Cate’s blogging course on Teachable!
It’s in-depth. Thoroughly done. Affordable. And it will save you years of stress trying to figure this stuff all out for yourself.
If you are serious about diving into blogging, I’d say it is well worth the investment!
And trust me, had I know half the things that Cate covers in this course when I first started blogging ( at age 13…), I would be WAY further ahead than I am now…

Cheers!

Grow Your Instagram Following With Milotree

Grow Your Instagram Following With Milotree

Want More Instagram Followers? Have A Website? Install THIS Plugin!

Ah, Milotree where have you been all of my life? I have been looking for a WordPress plugin that does EXACTLY what Milotree does, which is prompt visitors to THIS website to follow me on Instagram after they have have been on the website for a certain amount of time.

Although I am not a huge fan of pop-ups, I do believe that it is important to collect visitors on your website to your most active social media so that you can speak to them again. This of course, dramatically increases the likelihood that they will return to your blog and read more content in the future. Plus, this gives me/you the opportunity to connect with the people who visit your website or blog.

Milotree was a WordPress Plugin that came to my attention while I was doing research about affiliate links that are popular for bloggers. Milotree also pays a commission back to those who use it on their website and recommend it to their audience. This is simply a win-win. I’ll gladly pay to use this app and tell people about how it can help them grow their Instagram in exchange for a little bit of a commission… because like duh… that’s a no-brainer.

How does Milotree work?

It is actually pretty simple; Milotree generates the code needed to produce a pop up that is connected to your social media profile; Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook, Twitter or Youtube. When a visitor is on your website, it pops up after they scroll and prompts them to follow you, subscribe to you or like your page.

I installed Milotree using the WordPress plugin provided to me when I signed up. However, if you don’t use WordPress, you can get a piece of shortcode to put into your website code that will allow the popup to appear OR you can follow specific instructions; again provided by Milotree for installing the app into your website if you use Squarespace, Shopify, Weebly etc.

It takes less than 5 minutes to get it up and running, and there is no maintenance required.

This type of pop up is THE BEST way to grow your social media platforms – when you have a blog or website that people visit every day. Most of the time, social media links are subtle and easy to ignore. This pop up prompts the visitor to follow you, and if they are enjoying the content on your site ( or ) if they are a fan of your business they will likely do so no problem.

So far, I am very happy with the results I am garnering from Milotree – as it has already captured me 70 new followers and I only installed it today. If your goal is to increase your follower count on any of your social media or get more subscribers on Youtube, I highly recommend that you check this application out!

Maven: Pinterest That Pays?

Can You Make Money Using A New “Pinterest-Like” Social Media Platform?

Continuing on in my adventures finding realistic passive income sources, I stumbled across a relatively new social media platform that apparently “pays you” to participate on called Maven. Is Maven for real? I have been hearing about these mythical social media platforms that pay you to be a member of them for years, however, when you click to see what they are all about, they turn out to be total scams/click-bait. This is why I approached this new platform “Maven” with guarded skepticism. How is this going to work?

Much to my surprise, it appears that Maven is actually a legitimate social media platform that pays! 

Here is one of my Maven boards:

 

>> JOIN MAVEN free GET STARTED!<<

Crazy right! Here is how it works. You use Maven just like you would Pinterest. Pinning products onto custom boards that you like online; fashion, home decor, beauty products. Then, you share your Maven board with friends via your “other” social media platforms: Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter – if anyone buys any of the items that you have “pinned” you get paid a commission for recommending the product on your board.

You may be wondering what the catch is because it sounds “almost” too good to be true right? 

Well, from where I am standing the only real catch is that the items that you pin to your board must be from Maven’s list of products in order for you to get paid. Yeah… So really what you are doing is a form of affiliate link marketing just delivered in the more unique way. The pin-board gimmick being a way to convince people into thinking that the board, when shared, was built to show off your product and lifestyle preferences – NOT to be presented as a bunch of affiliate links. Clever?… In a way. Worthwhile? Possibly! I would recommend using Maven to make a little bit of extra money if; 

– You have a large following that would easily convert; meaning you are influential in the “lifestyle” niches; fashion, beauty, decor, and can drive enough traffic to your boards – people who may potentially buy the items you are recommending.

-You enjoy building boards and collections. Obviously, the key here is going to be building these Maven “pinboards” to showcase the unique fashionable items and complimentary products. If this is something that you genuinely enjoy doing in your spare time, then why not? Regular old Pinterest pays nothing; Maven offers some return. With that logic, it is a no-brainer.

– You have low to moderate expectations. Like all make money online opportunities, I always suggest that you approach it with skepticism and low expectations. I cannot see Maven replacing anyone’s day job BUT I can see it having some payback if you dedicate yourself to the process; building those pinboards and sharing them. Lifestyle bloggers should certainly check this one out, as they have the best chance of success with it.

Will I be using Maven to make money?

I am going to withhold my final verdict on Maven; the Pinterest-like social media platform that pays you to use it UNTIL I have had some time to try it out. I am enticed enough to give it a fair trial and build a few boards of my own, share them, and see what happens.

Browsing the items that are listed to be pinned, I can see quite a few high-quality items that I actually would potentially want to buy. This is important to mention; the stuff on this website that you can choose from isn’t crap – there are NICE clothes, make-up and home decor items that I feel anyone would like. Plus you don’t actually have to buy these items yourself to recommend them, so you can make a commission for suggesting high ticket products that you don’t even own. Seriously, worth daydreaming about some cool outfits and stylish interior design for the sake of building some boards!

Worst case scenario you spend some time window shopping – and playing around.
Best case scenario, your Maven board converts and you earn enough commission to actually buy some of the items you pinned on it!